I Don’t Like My Therapist Anymore



Last update on November 23, 2022 : Published on November 23, 2022

When I told people I was going to therapy for my depression, I was met with skeptical and disbelieving looks. I’ve been told all along that therapists are all make-believe. And unfortunately, I went to therapy with the same words in my head. I allowed the words and beliefs of others to cloud my judgment and it was a learning experience.

After speaking to my therapist and other people in therapy, I realized that what we all went through during our time in therapy was a unique and personal experience. What matters in a therapy session is not what you think, but what you have.

Every therapy-client experience and relationship is different. There are many kinds of people; some dislike their therapist, and some develop an unhealthy bond with their therapist.

And isn’t that a common concern? While you can have a healthy one therapeutic relationship With your therapist, many people don’t feel connected to their therapist (even going so far as to hate them). That’s what we examine in this article.

We have always seen through media representation that whoever the protagonist is, they like their local therapist. But is it true?

Now, if you’ve been wondering “I don’t like my therapist” or “I don’t feel connected to my therapist” lately, let’s find an acceptable answer to that question, shall we?

I don’t like my therapist: do you have to?

Well, basically you have to like your therapist. I know, I know; You might think you’re going to like your therapist (you chose them after all), but halfway through your sessions you might realize that you might not like your therapist anymore. Trust me it’s a normal question.

Therapy, whether you like it or not, pushes you to develop a relationship with your therapist. It’s an intimate and vulnerable space where you need to find solace in the company of someone you see once a week.

So you have to at least like your therapist if you want your therapy to work. Working with someone who helps you open your vulnerable side helps you show your emotions with them; Well, you have to at least feel connected to them to do all of that.

I can tell you from experience that it can be very difficult to feel a connection with your therapist. And if you don’t like your therapist, you won’t be able to connect with them that you need to.

However, this does not mean that you should keep going to therapy (or the same therapist) if you don’t like it. It is extremely important to acknowledge when you begin to feel a disconnect from your therapist or when you find that you no longer like your therapist. Any kind of antipathy in the therapeutic relationship can lead to a “rift.”

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Well, there could be many reasons why you might not like your therapist anymore. One is that you may have a disagreement with your therapist or they may not provide you with a safe, non-judgmental space to be comfortable in. Another reason is that you feel like you are not being heard and your feelings are not being validated.

When this happens, you can talk to your therapist about this dislike, and your therapist can help you resolve the conflict and make you feel comfortable.

However, it cannot always happen. Sometimes it’s best to switch therapists.

How much of the same is too much of the same?

Well, like any relationship, there must be boundaries. Your Therapist is not your friend. Legally! You can have a friendly relationship with your therapist, but he cannot be called a friend. A therapist’s ethical duty prevents him from entering into any sort of “dual relationship” with his clients.

This dual relationship can include friendships, business relationships, and even romantic relationships that add to your existing therapeutic relationship. This is unethical and can disrupt the dynamic of the therapist-client relationship. Not only that, but a dual relationship can hinder your therapeutic goals and treatment.

When you start liking your therapist too much, it can be referred to as transference. transmission are any feelings you have for your therapist that may be related to your emotional trauma or experiences.

For example, if you had a traumatic relationship with your mother and feel maternal affection from your therapist, this could lead you to want to have a maternal relationship with them. This is transmission.

Transmission can also be romantic or platonic.

What to do if you don’t like your therapist

If you don’t like your therapist anymore, first think about why. What happened to change your feelings? Were they judgmental? Have they behaved unprofessionally towards you?

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If they hit your red flags, then that is a sign that you have the wrong therapist and that you need to switch therapists. Don’t worry, that’s normal too. Therapy is all trial and error.

You go to therapy, you meet the therapist, you work with him on your goals, and if you like her you move on, or you don’t like her and change therapists. So you don’t have to feel discouraged.

If you don’t like your therapist because of a person in your life, then think about the relationship and see what they remind you of. Is it something you can share with your therapist to work out?

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Try talking to your therapist about your dislike of him and see where that conversation goes. If you still don’t like your therapist or can’t connect with them, then that’s a sign you need to do it change your therapist.

Find the right therapist

If you don’t like your therapist, that’s okay. All you have to do is figure out why and what. If you can understand why you don’t like your therapist, or what caused you to not like them in the middle of therapy, then you’ll know what needs to change the next time you’re looking for the right therapist.

Many online directories can help you find the right therapist, or you can connect with a therapist better help. The best thing about BetterHelp is that if you don’t like your therapist, the switching process is seamless. When you switch to a new therapist, you no longer have to worry about anything.

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If you don’t like your therapist anymore, then you have the right to switch to another therapist, but that’s no reason to drop out of therapy. So, no matter how many therapists you have to change, don’t abandon your treatment.

You’ve already taken a step in the right direction, so all you have to do is see through the path. Barriers can still appear, but they shouldn’t be the reason you quit.

I hope this blog has helped you learn more about what to do if you start disliking your therapist. For more you can write to us at or DM us on social media.

You can also share your tips on what to do when you don’t feel connected to your therapist in the comments below.

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About the author

Swarnakshi Sharma

Swarnakshi is a content writer at Calm Sage and believes in a healthier lifestyle for both mind and body. As a fighter and survivor of depression, she strives to reach and spread awareness to end the stigma surrounding mental health issues. A spiritual person at heart, he believes in destiny and the power of self. An avid reader and writer, she enjoys spending her free time baking and learning about world cultures.


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